It goes without saying that everyone of us has experienced being judged at some point in our lives. A lot of us might have even shaped our behaviors, actions, and personalities to try to ward off the harsh opinions of other people. At this point, we can say for sure that not being everyone’s cup of tea is inevitable to one’s life no matter who you are. However, despite this being a part of everyone’s lives, not everyone has a deeper understanding of what leads to these harsh words and thoughts, which shouldn’t be the case since having more knowledge on why people judge others might help individuals deal with it better. It might even help us comfort our friends and loved ones who are affected by this phenomenon. This article has been made for this very purpose. It is important to note that this tackles irrational, harmful, and unnecessary judgement, not simple differences in opinion, disagreement, or constructive criticism, as there is a fine line between these two that not everyone is able to differentiate.
There’s an immeasurable amount of information on the internet about fitness, nutrition, and working out. However, the majority of people that embark on their fitness journey find themselves stopping after a short while, failing to achieve even a small portion of their goals. This is because the hardest part of becoming a better version of yourself isn’t really the working out or exercising part, it’s having the mentality to to do it consistently. It’s having the mindset to push yourself on a regular basis. People need not to only develop only their physical strength, but their mental strength as well.
Picture yourself doing something you’re perfectly capable of doing. You’ve done it many times before. But one day, you’re asked to do the same thing, but with one slight difference: people will be observing you while you’re doing it. These aren’t just any people though, they’re the people who make it clear that they have low expectations for you and that they think you’re not capable of anything. As a result, you feel extra pressure to perform well and you get nervous. Subconsciously, your muscles tense up or stiffen which ends up in you failing to do what you’ve been previously able to do. The people who’ve underestimated you have a good laugh and feel good about themselves because you’ve met their low expectations for you. You’ve fulfilled the prophecy that they’ve given you.
“I haven’t seen my friends in a while.” “This whole covid thing really ruined everyone’s lives.” “I missed the life I used to have.” “Every day’s just the same. It’s you and the people in your house. The friends you’ve chosen, your classmates, workmates, team mates, peers and all that, yeah you can still chatContinue reading “The Truth About Loneliness and Isolation in Quarantine”
“Toxic Masculinity.” On an almost daily basis, I see this term being used in social media. When people want to encourage men to be more open about their emotions, they’re going against toxic masculinity. When male to female relationships and/or friendships end or get compromised, toxic masculinity is often cited as one of the mainContinue reading “Toxic Masculinity: What is it, what causes it, and how do we address it?”